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Post Found wife's bio-family through ancestry-dna UncleJD
Has anyone else done any DNA tests and found anything shocking? For us, my wife never knew her birth father. He was with her mother for about 1 year and left her when she became pregnant. For 25 years we've looked for him and his family and never had any success. Then, last Christmas on a whim we did DNA tests for everyone. We had all but forgotten about looking for her bio-father but things got interesting when the results came in. We found cousins from 2 grand-parents (paternal) that she'd never heard of, and now we've found her father was one of 2 men who's names are NOTHING like what her mother told her. Its been an interesting time to say the least, but every time someone new pops up that's not related to her mom's brother (who is on the ancestry DNA list), then we know its from her paternal side and we get closer and closer.

Well, today, the other side of that coin happened, a girl who popped up as my wife's first cousin (half cousin), reached out to us and found out that the man who raised her was not her real father. I know its got to be sad and traumatic for the young girl, we told her we will be praying for her.

One of the best things about all of this, is that there is now a lot more family members that we can pray for and witness the love of Jesus to. We're believing that God's timing is the right timing for all of this and that we might reach some of them for Him before its too late.
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Post Dow Moses
Interesting. Sure it is emotional for your wife as well.
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We haven’t yet done the DNA thing, mainly due to cost, but my wife was recently contacted by a sibling she never knew she had. She has always felt like she might possibly have some unknown siblings due to the way her Dad lived and loved, but in any case it has been a very emotional ride for her these past few months, reconnecting with her new brother and sister. We are planning an extended family reunion this summer when we go home to Michigan to see the rest of my wife’s family. No telling what we might find if we research our DNA. My wife has always said there’s no telling how many half-siblings she could have, considering how much of a lady’s man her Dad was. [Insert Acts Pun Here]
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We haven’t yet done the DNA thing, mainly due to cost, but my wife was recently contacted by a sibling she never knew she had. She has always felt like she might possibly have some unknown siblings due to the way her Dad lived and loved, but in any case it has been a very emotional ride for her these past few months, reconnecting with her new brother and sister. We are planning an extended family reunion this summer when we go home to Michigan to see the rest of my wife’s family. No telling what we might find if we research our DNA. My wife has always said there’s no telling how many half-siblings she could have, considering how much of a lady’s man her Dad was.


It is very emotional for sure, yet there is an immense sense of freedom and justice finding the truth. If you decide to do the tests, I highly recommend ancestry.com as the next biggest one (23andme) delivered ZERO results for us, its not even close (she didn't have anyone closer than 4th cousin show up on 23, and ancestry had 6 first-once-removed/second-cousins and an uncle, we were very disappointed in 23andMe and ancestry has solved the mystery. They have sales every few months for about $70 (genealogical only, medical costs extra).
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Post Cojak
This is amazing stuff. Makes for interesting reading that is for sure. Modern medical technology definitely has its positive side. I am learning. THANKS! Cool
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Post There is so much to ... Mat
There is so much to DNA testing (Mormons aside). There is a great feeling of having some understanding of where you came from and who you are connected to. I think DNA testing could help heal emotionally wounded individuals such as those who have been adopted, or even communities like African-Americans who has a since of disconnect due to slavery.

The law enforcement uses - finding the right rape and murder suspects, also, what if we took DNA samples from all immigrants (legal or other wish). We could have a clear identity no matter what name they used, we could trace them back to where they came from.

The military use of DNA to identify KIAs is leading to a day we no longer have "unknowns," plus we could hit the people who fund terrorist.

Medical use is bringing cures and treatments for so many diseases and I feel one day science will point to one conclusion, there is a Creator.

My sister had a test, but we learned that some test only show the father's or the mother's DNA line. We knew that dad's family was from northern Germany, Scandinavia and Eastern European Slavic. No surprises on that side. I want to get mine done, but the test that does the mother's side.

Mat

PS I men should get tested when a baby is born to confirm they are the father - as the old saying goes, "moma's baby daddy's maybe." We could make sure the right man pays the child support and the child is not raised in a suspicious home environment. As a bonus we would put some talk show host out of business.
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Post Brandon Bowers
I've done Ancestry DNA, and I have a pretty extensive tree built out.

The biggest surprise so far is that I've found a secret cousin, and we're still trying to find out exactly who he belongs to. We've narrowed it down to my paternal grandmother's siblings. Someone either gave him up for adoption, or had a child out of wedlock. Unfortunately, my grandmother and her siblings are all dead, so we can't confirm anything yet..


I also recommend uploading the results to GEDMatch.com and seeing if anyone else shows up.
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Post Re: There is so much to ... Cojak
Mat wrote:
There is so much to DNA testing (Mormons aside). There is a great feeling of having some understanding of where you came from and who you are connected to. I think DNA testing could help heal emotionally wounded individuals such as those who have been adopted, or even communities like African-Americans who has a since of disconnect due to slavery.

The law enforcement uses - finding the right rape and murder suspects, also, what if we took DNA samples from all immigrants (legal or other wish). We could have a clear identity no matter what name they used, we could trace them back to where they came from.

The military use of DNA to identify KIAs is leading to a day we no longer have "unknowns," plus we could hit the people who fund terrorist.

Medical use is bringing cures and treatments for so many diseases and I feel one day science will point to one conclusion, there is a Creator.

My sister had a test, but we learned that some test only show the father's or the mother's DNA line. We knew that dad's family was from northern Germany, Scandinavia and Eastern European Slavic. No surprises on that side. I want to get mine done, but the test that does the mother's side.

Mat

PS I men should get tested when a baby is born to confirm they are the father - as the old saying goes, "moma's baby daddy's maybe." We could make sure the right man pays the child support and the child is not raised in a suspicious home environment. As a bonus we would put some talk show host out of business.



Also some very good thoughts
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Post UncleJD
Brandon Bowers wrote:

I also recommend uploading the results to GEDMatch.com and seeing if anyone else shows up.


I've uploaded ours to gedmatch and myheritage. Myheritage is a much nicer interface, they are the only commercial DNA testing company that you can upload raw DNA from competitor for free and add on medical and/or genealogical services too, check them out, I've had a lot more hits there than gedmatch.
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Post JLarry
Interesting!

I have wanted to have a DNA for some time now but have not due to cost.

My Great grand father was married 7 times and had about 20 children. My father always had an interest in relatives.

Not long before he died I took a cassette tape recorder and interviewed him about our relatives.

I discovered my sister married her 5th cousin. By my calculations their children are 7th cousins.

Several years ago I received a letter from a cousin that I did not know. He did some study of our family. Dad would have loved to know what he shared with me

Here are some interesting facts.
My wife's sister married Tom. She died and my sister married Tom (they since divorced). Then my son married Tom's sister. This made Tom my sons brother in law and since he married my sister and my wife's sister he was also my son's double uncle. For the record I have only married once and we are not biologically related. Very Happy

I think I may be my own Grandpa. Very Happy
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Post JLarry
Interesting!

I have wanted to have a DNA for some time now but have not due to cost.

My Great grand father was married 7 times and had about 20 children. My father always had an interest in relatives.

Not long before he died I took a cassette tape recorder and interviewed him about our relatives.

I discovered my sister married her 5th cousin. By my calculations their children are 7th cousins.

Several years ago I received a letter from a cousin that I did not know. He did some study of our family. Dad would have loved to know what he shared with me

Here are some interesting facts.
My wife's sister married Tom. She died and my sister married Tom (they since divorced). Then my son married Tom's sister. This made Tom my sons brother in law and since he married my sister and my wife's sister he was also my son's double uncle. For the record I have only married once and we are not biologically related. Very Happy

I think I may be my own Grandpa. Very Happy
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JLarry wrote:


I think I may be my own Grandpa. Very Happy


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JL, you bring up another point, something else we found out through this test, the girl I mention, this revelation, about her biological father, also revealed the uncomfortable truth that her first husband, the father of their 2 children, was also her 2nd cousin, making her children siblings and second-cousins-once-removed. Fortunately they are both healthy, and such a marriage is legal in all states as far as I know, but yeah, that was a real shock as well.. Poor girl. Golf Cart Mafia Consigliere
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Mat wrote:
There is so much to DNA testing (Mormons aside). There is a great feeling of having some understanding of where you came from and who you are connected to. I think DNA testing could help heal emotionally wounded individuals such as those who have been adopted, or even communities like African-Americans who has a since of disconnect due to slavery.

The law enforcement uses - finding the right rape and murder suspects, also, what if we took DNA samples from all immigrants (legal or other wish). We could have a clear identity no matter what name they used, we could trace them back to where they came from.

The military use of DNA to identify KIAs is leading to a day we no longer have "unknowns," plus we could hit the people who fund terrorist.


Medical use is bringing cures and treatments for so many diseases and I feel one day science will point to one conclusion, there is a Creator.

My sister had a test, but we learned that some test only show the father's or the mother's DNA line. We knew that dad's family was from northern Germany, Scandinavia and Eastern European Slavic. No surprises on that side. I want to get mine done, but the test that does the mother's side.

Mat

PS I men should get tested when a baby is born to confirm they are the father - as the old saying goes, "moma's baby daddy's maybe." We could make sure the right man pays the child support and the child is not raised in a suspicious home environment. As a bonus we would put some talk show host out of business.



Did you see the headlines - Law Enforcement used evidence from a DNA genealogy website to track and capture the Golden State Killer. The future is now, but Elvis is still out there! Laughing Laughing Laughing

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Mat wrote:
Mat wrote:
There is so much to DNA testing (Mormons aside). There is a great feeling of having some understanding of where you came from and who you are connected to. I think DNA testing could help heal emotionally wounded individuals such as those who have been adopted, or even communities like African-Americans who has a since of disconnect due to slavery.

The law enforcement uses - finding the right rape and murder suspects, also, what if we took DNA samples from all immigrants (legal or other wish). We could have a clear identity no matter what name they used, we could trace them back to where they came from.

The military use of DNA to identify KIAs is leading to a day we no longer have "unknowns," plus we could hit the people who fund terrorist.


Medical use is bringing cures and treatments for so many diseases and I feel one day science will point to one conclusion, there is a Creator.

My sister had a test, but we learned that some test only show the father's or the mother's DNA line. We knew that dad's family was from northern Germany, Scandinavia and Eastern European Slavic. No surprises on that side. I want to get mine done, but the test that does the mother's side.

Mat

PS I men should get tested when a baby is born to confirm they are the father - as the old saying goes, "moma's baby daddy's maybe." We could make sure the right man pays the child support and the child is not raised in a suspicious home environment. As a bonus we would put some talk show host out of business.



Did you see the headlines - Law Enforcement used evidence from a DNA genealogy website to track and capture the Golden State Killer. The future is now, but Elvis is still out there! Laughing Laughing Laughing

Mat


Yeah I saw that, and after my research experience, I don't doubt that I could find just about anyone like this. Ancestry DNA is on sale for $59 right now btw, that's the best price I've seen it.
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SO these ancestry sites make more money by selling the DNA to law enforcement sites?
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SO these ancestry sites make more money by selling the DNA to law enforcement sites?



No, the site used was Gedmatch.com, which is a free, open-source site where anyone can upload their DNA results.

For example, I used Ancestry, and my mother's cousin used 23 and me. If we both upload to Gedmatch, we can compare results.
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Nature Boy Florida wrote:
SO these ancestry sites make more money by selling the DNA to law enforcement sites?


It a "brave new world" or is it the "new world order". As the man said, just spit in the bottle and there will be no trouble.

Could be include this in voter ID?

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Nature Boy Florida wrote:
SO these ancestry sites make more money by selling the DNA to law enforcement sites?


No, I don't think that's how it works. You put your dna sample out there (or in this case the LE officers did the perp's), then you wait for matches from relatives to come in. Those people all agreed to have their matches open for others to see.
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Just to give an update on the most recent developments. We sent a DNA test kit to my wife's cousin/sister (we knew she was one or the other), the answer to which would tell us which of the 2 brothers was her father. Those results came in last week showing that the lady is her first cousin. This was emotionally hard on the sweet lady who had always wanted a sister and had her hopes up. This whole thing has so many emotional ups and downs. So the good news for us is that the brother who is her father is still alive. Then comes the awkward part, contacting him. We expected rejection, and honestly were OK with that, we wanted closure and would have it either way. We reached out to his son who we'd already contacted and he said he'd go talk to "Bill" for us. Amazingly, the next day, we he sent a video to my wife's phone of "Bill" saying hello to her and that he can't wait to meet her! She then spoke to him on the phone for about an hour the next night. He has obviously lived a very hard life, but apparently in the last 30 years his current wife has straightened him up, he no longer drinks or smokes (and we're hoping to find that he's saved, or at least open to the Lord). He agreed to do a DNA test himself just to close off all doubts, but there is very little chance he is not her father (it would have to be an unknown child of BOTH of his parents given up for adoption at this point). Anyways, we are very excited and thankful for this journey's end and pray that my wife and I can be a turning point in their lives leading them to Jesus and an eternity together. Golf Cart Mafia Consigliere
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