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[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 12792 **2/9/12 11:06 am**

When my wife was breastfeeding our babies, one thing I always thought was really beautiful was how much cheaper it was than buying formula.

Cojak

01000001 01100011 01110100 01110011 Posts: 24277 **2/9/12 11:15 am**

Funny how times have changed. My mother in law worked in a cotton mill, when it came time to feed the baby one of the older girls carried the baby to the mill, mama fed it, and they returned home. I was amazed at that.

The older I get I learn a lot more about the roles women have played in life, and the many things Men have not understood. Religions have always placed a lot of weights on women. I am amazed at the ability of them to survive and come out stronger.

Sometimes we men come across like the world of Islam. Do what I SAY, no questions.

I look back at over 55 years of marriage and see the things my wife endured, and I want to do all I can to make her life easy. I now try to SERVE her for all she has given me. She gets a massage every week and most of the meals served to her. Just try once to put yourself place in the place of a woman, you may understand.

I'm reminded of a wonderful mother of 10, getting them all ready for Sunday School while her husband took care of the farm chores. All in the car, ready to go She says, "Well, Kenneth, I think I am ready."
He says, "Honey you'd better go back in the house and put on your skirt!"

An absolute true story. Happened at the first church I pastored.
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Paige Hamby

Acts-celerater Posts: 679 **2/9/12 11:24 am**

Cojak, what a sweet compliment you just paid to all women and mothers. You sound like a wonderful husband. How precious of you to recognize all the work your wife has done over the years and for you to treat her now.

God as my witness, I have never, ever in my life been so exhausted and worn out doing normal day to day tasks as I have been the past few months. Handling a major move (and unexpectedly purchasing a home) at 9 months pregnant, caring for 2 toddlers and now having a 3rd who had a terrible birth and spent 9 days in the NICU just about wore me out. I'm finally getting back on track with life and have spent the past 2 months working like a crazy woman (type-A that I am!) trying to organize my family and our life. I'm putting systems into place for pretty much everything possible to organize our lives and make them simpler. Redecorating our home. Keeping up with the house/children while working. Never have I appreciated my Mom so much!

God made women to be extra special and with extra grace to be able to manage all we have on our plate. And it's sweet when a husband/father acknowledges that Smile

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Tracy S Hamilton

Golf Cart Mafia Capo Posts: 2716 **2/9/12 11:26 am**

As long as it is a mom and not a dad, then we should all be OK..... lol

Dave Dorsey

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Quiet Wyatt

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 12792 **2/9/12 11:34 am**

Quiet Wyatt

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 12792 **2/9/12 11:36 am**

Also, if they actually meant that women should not expose their breast in public to nurse, but that it would be okay if a baby and breast were modestly covered, that was not clear from their posts.

Pretty sure most all of us here wouldn't consider it appropriate for a woman to expose her breast in public.

InspiredHillbilly

Since it was us men...

Golf Cart Mafia Associate Posts: 2120 **2/9/12 11:41 am**

Since it has been said us men have been pushing down the throat what we want... and this is just men having an issue, I wanted to point something out.

I will admit, a women modestly covered or not, breastfeeding in public is just inappropriate to me. Not because it's sexual, but because it's intimate, it's private, it's something that is special between a mom and child. To me it just seems like a very private exercise, that's should be out there in public.

Also, when I asked my mom about this, this morning, as I wanted a women's viewpoint, she said it just seems to be very inappropriate in her eyes to breast feed in public covered or not.

I then emailed 3 ladies in my Pastor's Circle from church asking them their feelings... all in their 30's.... they also said that it's a private, personal thing. They all said, like Paige that it was bonding, a wonderful thing to do, etc. but they thought it was inappropriate to do so in public, covered or not.

One said, "I believe God wants me to breastfeed Jack if I'm physically able to do so, and I am. But it's private. This generation that wants to do it anywhere and everywhere is doing it because of convenience."

They all 3 chimed in with many replies to all saying they just aren't as mobile while they have a child they are breastfeeding, so that it stays private.

So I'm not sure this is just the men feeling this way... Very Happy

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Dave Dorsey

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Paige Hamby

Acts-celerater Posts: 679 **2/9/12 11:51 am**

Hillbilly,

While I echo the sentiments of those ladies - and again reiterate the fact that I rarely breastfeed in public in plain site - it should still be noted that there ARE times when a nursing mother is in a situation in which there is no option but to nurse publically. Regardless of the fact that a woman may not be as mobile as she'd like to be with a nursing baby, we STILL occasionally face circumstances in which we can either discreetly nurse in a public setting or be forced to sit on a dirty toilet seat in a dirty bathroom. I will take discreetly nursing in a corner of a store/church/etc over a bathroom. Usually, no one will even notice.

But to be told (on this board, all men so far) that it's weird or inappropriate is judgmental and ignorant (as in, lacking knowledge of such things).

Men, next time you judge a woman nursing in public, try to put yourself in her shoes and have a little compassion that maybe her baby is hungry and screaming its head off due to some unforseen circumstance on the mother's part. The mom is likely stressed out as it is, realizes that everyone is staring at her and just wants to get her baby to calm down. So she instinctually does what every nursing mother does without even thinking and gives her baby a boob to not only feed, but soothe him. Is this REALLY so offensive?

For goodness sake, turn your head instead of jumping to conclusions. Better yet, offer to take her cart back up to the store for her or help unload her groceries or offer a sympathetic smile or open the door for her. Try to have some sympathy for us when we are out in public because it's not as easy as it seems. Go home and ask your wife who has probably nursed a baby while trying to get your dinner on the table, vacuum your home and care for your other children all at the same time Smile

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c6thplayer1

Ok you win..

c6thplayer1 · Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 6385 **2/9/12 11:54 am**

IT is now ok for the childs diaper to be changed anywhere regardless of the contents. ITs a natural and beautiful thing you know. This includes the pew your sitting in, The coffee bar out front, the kitchen and the foyer.

You can lay the removed item on the seat next to you, the coffee counter
the ice tea tray, or on the pulpit if you happen to be at the alter at the time of discharge.

We will all smile and go home thinking what a beautiful thing we have witnessed and my what a socially astute lady attends our worship facility.

InspiredHillbilly

Golf Cart Mafia Associate Posts: 2120 **2/9/12 11:55 am**

Now Paige... Did I say it was offensive? I said in my opinion, and some others opinions, it's inappropriate...
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Paige Hamby

Acts-celerater Posts: 679 **2/9/12 11:58 am**

Paige Hamby

Re: Ok you win..

Acts-celerater Posts: 679 **2/9/12 11:59 am**

Nature Boy Florida

Re: Ok you win..

Acts-pert Poster Posts: 16619 **2/9/12 12:01 pm**

InspiredHillbilly

Golf Cart Mafia Associate Posts: 2120 **2/9/12 12:03 pm**

c6thplayer1

I forgot

Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 6385 **2/9/12 12:03 pm**

We should also reserve the 3rd pew for colonoscopy's. Just bring a blanket to cover yourself

Paige Hamby

Acts-celerater Posts: 679 **2/9/12 12:04 pm**

My mistake. I'm at work right now multi-tasking during a very busy day. And pumping at the same time Wink

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Paige Hamby

Re: I forgot

Acts-celerater Posts: 679 **2/9/12 12:05 pm**

Quiet Wyatt

Re: I forgot

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 12792 **2/9/12 12:06 pm**