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DHDRabbi

Do you spank your children?

DHDRabbi · [Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 13680 **2/10/08 2:33 pm**

It's been a while since I had children at home and was just wondering about this.

PastorKeith

good question Rabbi...

Acts Enthusiast Posts: 1580 **2/10/08 2:58 pm**

but did spanking ever stop? I must say though that even though I have grandchildren (believe me I am far from your typical Norman Rockwell type Laughing

) now, my discipline or correction of them is different than when I raised my children.
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DHDRabbi

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 13680 **2/10/08 3:04 pm**

I was just wondering if the young folks are still spanking their children. My thoughts about it changed while my kids were home. In other words, my oldest got more spankings than my youngest. That was a long time ago and I was just wanting to know what was going on these days.

PastorKeith

Very typical for most families DHD.

Acts Enthusiast Posts: 1580 **2/10/08 3:09 pm**

Most, including myself, are pretty much harder in correcting the first child vs. the remaining children. By the time I got to the sixth child, the first child was questioning "how come you didnt let me get away with that?" In turnabout fashion, many times our children teach us about ourselves more so than we teach them about us. Smile

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Memory03

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l can probably count the times on my hands that l ever had to give a serious spanking while he was growing up...
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vintagefaith77

Acts Enthusiast Posts: 1807 **2/10/08 3:59 pm**

no, he's only 2 1/2 weeks old though Very Happy

cdhenderson

Acts Enthusiast Posts: 1449 **2/10/08 9:30 pm**

Is this going to be used against me in a court of law Rolling Eyes

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DHDRabbi

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 13680 **2/10/08 9:37 pm**

Fisher

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I was raised with corporal punishment. I thought it was the way. I remember spanking my daughter once. Unfortunatly my first born was not so lucky.

I was very young and spanked much more than needed! I have since repented to him!

I will not discount the need of the "occasional" butt slap, but if I am any example, it needs to be very rare and should not be seen as the first method of discipline.
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Acts-celerater Posts: 927 **2/10/08 10:26 pm**

I checked "no"....but possibly should have checked "yes". I have spanked mine before.....if you want to call it that. A swat on the butt was about the extent of it.

As a child, I was the oldest, and I was responsible for my younger siblings. If they did something wrong...I got "spanked" for it. The subject tends to bring up bad memories for me. As an adult I ended up going to a parenting class to learn how to correct my children properly for fear that I would be abusive and not correct them properly. I decided that taking something away for a period of time was effective and opted for that the majority of the time and stayed away from spanking. I believe that there is a right way to spank and a wrong way. Because of my method of discipline I took a lot of criticism from other Christians...and to make it worse....they rarely had anything to say to me but rather opted to tell my children that I did not love them if I did not spank them. In my opinion, the goal is to correct the child when they have done wrong. It's not so much the method of correction...but the fact that they have been corrected, suffered a consequence, and learned a valuable lesson. When my daughter was younger I always took her to the bible and had her look up scripture pertaining to the wrong that she had done, had her read it, write it down, and then write something to me in her own words about what she had done and why it was wrong, pray with her about it and then dole out a punishment to her that was fitting for the situation. By the time I was done with her....she may have very well wished that I had spanked her instead! Wink

The biggest thing for me was that I never wanted to "spank" or react out of anger.

DOC

Acts-celerater Posts: 645 **2/11/08 12:21 am**

I spank my children if what they did warrants it. My parents spanked my siblings and me. We have never been in trouble with the law. Never spent one minute in a jail cell. We have never abused drugs or alcohol or been in rehab.
I would say that it worked for us.
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DHDRabbi

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 13680 **2/11/08 8:48 am**

Many years ago, a man I went to church with was having trouble with his 16 year old. She left the house when she was told not to and was gone overnight, I think. When she returned the next day, he spanked her. She ran to a neighbor's house and they called the law. He spent time in jail. The police tried to get the girl to say bad things about her Dad, but she wouldn't. She realized what she had done seeing her dad in jail.

This man did not deserve to go to jail, but that is the reality of society. And that was over 20 years ago.

Phil Hoover

There is just a huge difference

Acts-pert Poster Posts: 15382 **2/11/08 9:46 am**

between abuse and discipline.....
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DHDRabbi

Re: There is just a huge difference

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Memory03

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love should not hurt...
love should not leave bruises or marks on ones body...
love should not be a mask covering a face of fear...
love should not be a mask covering a face of anger and rage...
love should not destroy what it touches...
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daddyohohoh

My wife & I both

Acts-celerater Posts: 960 **2/11/08 11:26 am**

spank our children as needed. One thing I learned growing up was it may have hurt for a little while, but that pain was much better than life pain later on.
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daddyohohoh

Memory...

Acts-celerater Posts: 960 **2/11/08 12:05 pm**

definitely seems like much "scar" tissue has helped to develop you opinion of this matter. Although growing up for me I would consider "normal", I am often checked in my spirit as to the length of discipline I am willing to go. I have had to learn as Prefontaine stated, to discuss before & after and definitely apply much love ofter discipline.

I also check myself to make sure my response isn't fueled by anger, instead of truly bringing correction to a situation.
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